Well, here I am. During the past few months I met the "perfect" man. Stable, funny, loving, intelligent and stable.. ... but we are going our separate ways. Sad in so many ways, but from where I sit, I am in a place in my life that going my separate way is at times scary but I have the confidence to do it. I have the confidence to let be what will be. It's a lesson I have learned from my past relationship. You cannot force somebody to be what you want them to. You cannot let the fantasy you have built around them blur the reality. As the old saying goes, if you love something set it free and I believe acceptance of the situation will set you free.
We all are raised to go to school get married, have children and that this is the path to free us from being lonely but in the wrong situation this path only free's us of the responsibility of accepting that what will be will be that we do not have control of everything in our lives. We have control of who we are, who we present ourselves to be and how honest we are to ourselves.
Our real human need I believe is to meet our true calling and our true potential. To see the barriers in our life and find away to work with them. I believe it is only then that we can enter a relationship where we are able as human's to share our journey through life with that special someone. First you need to find someone who is the special someone in their own life and wants to share that journey with another. Until we do that we ill often be going our separate ways.
However, when I go my separate way now I have company. The truly most important person in my life, my son.
